I think Jenna Kutcher said it best … balance is a unicorn.
A fairy-tale concept where non-stressed people enjoy life and work equally... a mythological thing that is heard of, yet never actually seen. It’s something very few of us ever get a real handle on, but each day I make it my mission to wrangle the monster that is work / life / mama balance!
Acceptance is key. This is a tough one for me. I am a natural born doer. Sitting still just doesn’t feel right so I have a bad habit of always taking on far too much. Accepting and realising that I can’t do it all has been my biggest struggle.
Nah to the ah to the no no no. I am proud to say that this year I have finally learnt to say NO. Up until now I have always said YES and honestly it never fared well for little old me, so I finally learnt my lesson and 'manned' up! It’s been one of the best things I have done for myself and my little Biz to date!
Make lists your b*tch! I am a HUGE fan of lists! Not only are they a bloody great way to keep track of all of your tasks, but they help you instantly focus on what you need to do and when. I divide my to-do lists up into days, so anything I don’t get done gets carried over to the next day etc, etc. I don’t just use them for work either, I basically use them to organise my entire life and it’s so unbelievably gratifying to get out that pink highlighter and cross tasks out! Sometimes I even write tasks I’ve already completed just so that I can cross them out … instant gratification! Does anyone else do this!? I am sure I can’t be the only one … right guys?
Do 'YOU'. From the day my little babe was born I made a conscious effort to ‘do me’. I knew from the second that little test flashed positive (and honestly before I ever even got pregnant) that giving up my precious ‘me time’ was what I would struggle with most. At the heart of it, I am a loner. I like doing things alone, going out alone and just being alone in general. I also like things to be a particular way and most of all I love routine (are you sensing I may have some OCD type personality traits here …) and we all know that babies are the enemy of routine. SO, I made it my priority to get out and get time to myself, but also with girlfriends, my mum and most importantly my hubby and that has honestly been my saving grace. I won’t lie, I have struggled as a Mum to deal with my new life, but making sure I do me is one of the best things I have done for myself and honestly for my little family too. It keeps me sane which works out well for them.
Time out. Make time each day to do nothing. This is a tough one. I try to make time each night before I go to bed to scroll through social media, reply to texts and vague out with some (usually trashy) tv with my hubby. I can’t function if I know I won’t get that little bit of time each night to just chill out. It makes all the difference.
And most importantly, realise that sometimes you need to listen to your body, ‘switch off’ and watch 6 episodes of Band of Brothers in a row … oh, wait … that’s just me.
What is your number one tip for achieving work / life balance?
If you're like me and are totally bonkers for to do lists, here is a little something to help organise your day / week / life! I like my lists clean, simple and with lots of room to WRITE!